With marriage, the addition of a small individual to your life as a couple means that you need to be even more careful in your relationships. Especially when fighting with your spouse, you should definitely consider the positive or negative effects of these behaviors on your child.
One of the greatest evils done to a child is not being able to provide the child with an environment with happy parents. Because the home where the parents are is a safe space for the child. If the child grows up with fears and anxieties instead of a sense of security in the home environment where he lives as a safe space, a healthy mental structure and a healthy personality pattern cannot be expected from that child. Therefore, the parenting role is most affected by the relationship between spouses.
You should know that when you start arguing with your spouse in front of your child;
-The child who wants to see a happy parent profile becomes unhappy because he sees his parents unhappy.
-While the bond between spouses must be strengthened for the continuation of a happy marriage, this bond is weakened by constant arguments and your role as mother/father is negatively affected by this.
-Since the parent's authority over the child is also damaged by the argument, your power of influence on the child decreases.
Think of it this way;
“On one side the mother is unhappy, on the other side the father is unhappy. Your living space is in an atmosphere of unrest and tension. There is neither pleasant conversation, nor laughter, nor a pleasant atmosphere in the home where the child should find safety and peace. Even a temporary guest would not enjoy visiting a house with such an environment. Because the reflection of your negative emotional energy makes everyone in that house feel unhappy. "While even a guest may not be able to tolerate this gloomy environment for a few hours, imagine that your child has to be in this environment and be exposed to these discussions every day."
In order for your child to have a healthy psychology, parents must first be successful in communicating correctly with each other. Remember that marital relations also significantly affect the relationship between parents and children.
