People can be prone to irritability from time to time. In the state of anger, people feel as if their blood has splattered into their brains and act irrationally, and later regret their actions. It can be clearly stated that anger is an emotion that should not be taken lightly, and serious efforts are required to achieve anger control. By understanding anger and how it works, you can control your anger instead of controlling you.
Why Do We Get Angry?
Anger; Unsatisfied desires, hindrance, hurt, invasion of our borders, violation of our rights, threats, etc. It is a natural and universal emotional response to undesirable outcomes and unmet expectations. It can also occur when we do not have the opportunity to express ourselves or when we feel inadequate. In addition to being angry with others, it is possible to sometimes feel anger towards ourselves.
Not every situation in which we feel anger angers us with the same intensity. The characteristics of the event that angered us and how it happened, how we interpret that situation subjectively and our mood at that moment affect the intensity of the anger we will feel.
Suggestions for Anger Management
1) First of all, notice your feelings, thoughts and behaviors. Analyze in detail what angers you, how you react, how you feel.
2) Leave the environment you are in for a while when you are angry. But let me know that you will come back again. Express that this is not an abandonment, but a break to calm down.
3) In the face of the situation that makes you angry, first listen to the person in front of you and ask him questions. Concentrate your attention on his answers as much as possible.
4) Then express your feelings and thoughts transparently and openly.
5) If you are experiencing a situation where you feel regret, you should apologize and express your regret no matter what stage you are at.
Specialist Psychologist Kaan Üçyıldız said, “When anger cannot be controlled, different problems can arise. When you get angry, stress hormones are released, which can turn into different symptoms such as heart palpitations, chest tightness, and hot flashes. In the long run, it can adversely affect the immune system. Anger control is important for your health. If you still think that you cannot control your anger despite all your efforts, you should consult a specialist.
