You Must Have a Good Reason to Start Your Day

ARE YOU AFRAID OF BEING HAPPY?

Everyone has things they want to improve and change in their lives and goals they want to achieve. But sometimes insufficient effort and sometimes wrong methods prevent us from achieving success. Education Consultant and Life Coach Barış Balcı said that our choices, our current behaviors and habits, affect our future.
Successful people; Noting that there are people who have a good reason to start the day, a strong will and a strong internal motivation, Barış Balcı listed the elements we need on the road to success as follows:
You Must Have a Good Reason to Start Your Day
The Japanese have a beautiful philosophy on this subject, Ikigai. A philosophy that argues that everyone should have an ikigai to get out of bed in the morning. İkigai is “a meaningful reason for living, what makes life worth living; It means "reason for existence".
Why am I alive? Why do I exist? Why am I doing this? It is a philosophy that involves creating and maintaining images, pictures, dreams and fictions to remind oneself of these. If a person cannot find his own life purpose, if he cannot set his own goals, someone will do it for him and the person experiences the consequences of the choices he does not want.
In life; In addition to our financial goals such as getting into school, getting a profession, making money, we should also have goals such as being a good person, contributing to people, and producing something. It is very important to be able to continue your existence for a purpose.
Intrinsic Motivation is a Must
A person's life purpose and goals should provide him with internal motivation. In other words, he must have a strong desire to achieve his goal without the need for anyone's intervention from outside. If the motivation that motivates a person comes from within, the person becomes unstoppable. That goal is progressing and progressing for that purpose.
For an athlete, every minute of every training is very valuable. It is constantly progressing by activating itself with an internal dynamic. He improves himself with every training he does and achieves the degrees he wants.
A student must be motivated to get into the school he wants and to get the score he wants. Must be able to work systematically and consistently on his own will, without external guidance. Otherwise, even if temporary motivation is provided by pressure from parents or teachers, threats or promises of rewards, this does not happen constantly. When there is no pressure or reward, he slacks off and does not do what he should do. He has to work because he wants to, to reach that profession and to get into that school.
Visualize the Future
Mental training is very important. People who bring the feeling of future pleasure to the present can produce work with higher energy to achieve this goal. If you have a strong goal, you should move forward by imagining what you will experience and how you will feel when you reach the goal. If you see the process you will go through and the result you will achieve as a whole, the difficulties you encounter will not seem difficult to you.
For example, when an individual who wants to learn to play the guitar imagines that he will sing a beautiful song with the guitar in the future, that he will be applauded, and how happy he will be when he goes on stage, when he feels these emotions within himself and keeps them in his mind, he does not see it as a problem for his fingers to hurt or blister while he is trying to learn the guitar. Or if a student gets excited thinking about what he will experience and how he will feel when he gets into his dream school, solving questions and studying will not be difficult for him.
Strong Will & Consistent Work
We can compare our will to a muscle. We can strengthen our willpower by dealing with problems on the way to the goal. Of course, we need to be patient against things that challenge us.
While playing basketball, we may not be able to get the ball to the basket from the three-point line the first time. Our muscles and strength may not allow this. But when we try this over and over again, we succeed in throwing the ball into the basket after a certain period of time. Michael Jordan, the world's most famous basketball player, states that he missed more than 9 thousand shots throughout his career, missed 26 last-second shots, and that he could become a great player by experiencing these experiences.
Whatever you focus on, the brain constantly reproduces it. Continuous actions make that work stronger. As an athlete trains continuously, his muscles develop, and when he shoots continuously, after a while his arm, ball and basket become integrated. The person becomes doing it automatically. Whatever the person focuses on, he constantly repeats it and does it better.
When a person continues his actions regularly and consistently towards the goal he wants to achieve, he can achieve things that seem very difficult. When he looks back, he will see how he overcame obstacles. No matter how talented a person is and has superior skills, his talent and intelligence are of little use if he does not work regularly and systematically. Just like the Hare and the TortoiseJust like in the story.
Create Routines
  You should have routines such as going to bed and waking up at the same time, eating at the same time, preparing for the next day at the same time, repeating the day at the same time in the evening, and repeating that week at the weekend. When you have regular routines, after a while you start doing them without thinking. Working with a program allows you to learn and progress more effectively.
Planning one's time for a goal and regularly performing certain actions to achieve it definitely yields results. This; It is valid for everyone, business person, athlete, artist, student.
Learning from mistakes
Individuals with an optimistic attitude find something to learn from when they fall. He either wins or he learns. He does not perceive falling or making mistakes as a problem. The student is better prepared for the next exam by seeing the mistakes and shortcomings he made in the exam.
Remember, difficulties make you stronger. The harder it is to achieve something, the more valuable it becomes. The things that make us who we are are the difficulties, problems, troubles we experience. It is very valuable to continue to strive for the goal you want to achieve. Falling and making mistakes are also part of the process. We are experiencing the consequences of what we paid for and fought for. In order to live our lives more meaningfully, we need struggle and some obstacles. We don't get any pleasure from things we get without effort anyway.